When I talk about healing, I caution to be wary of our habit of trying to manage everything with the mind. While we can notice and name emotions with the mind, processing emotions has to happen with the emotional body.

Recently, I had a new insight into this topic. Essentially, for our contractions to be held in place, we have to believe in them. We have to feel we’re right to resist, that allowing the held experience to be experienced is unsafe or similar.

Further, this belief helps us hide contractions that have been rated unsafe, keeping them subconscious. Some of these contractions are collective, and our belief in them means we carry them too. 

For example, we may believe that anger is unsafe. If we’re triggered that way, it’s immediately suppressed. But if that belief aligns with a collective belief, this reinforces us, and we can end up carrying that too. This is especially challenging for heavier emotions like shame and depression as they have more energetic weight.

Of course, this is a more subtle belief, on the level of our sense of should and must. If we could easily see the belief, it wouldn’t be doing its job of hiding. Yet we can see its effects.

It’s our identity that feels unsafe, so this is also entangled with these belief structures. 

Healers often encourage knowing the root of our trauma. Not to relive and re-traumatize us, but to see the construct for what it is. A pain body or wounded part that the identity fears. This fear comes from aversion and not knowing how to process it. 

But with the proper understanding of trauma, somatic, and energy healing, we no longer need to fear anything we’ve resisted. It may still take a bit of time to convince the body of this. It’s felt and carried our beliefs for so long.
Davidya

Last Updated on March 7, 2026 by Davidya