PLEASE NOTE: This interview originally aired on Sounds True One, where you can enjoy early, ad-free access to episodes of Insights at the Edge. Sounds True One is our premium membership platform built around live classes, online events, award-winning specials, intimate learning experiences and Q&A sessions with the world's leading wisdom teachers. Get your first month FREE at join.soundstrue.com Get your first month FREE at https://bit.ly/4ctecMn Most of us have heard that forgiveness sets us free. Fewer of us have been told what it costs. According to Reverend Dr. Michelle Wadleigh, it costs the satisfaction of being right. In this episode, Tami Simon speaks with Wadleigh—ordained minister in Centers for Spiritual Living, retreat facilitator, co-founder of the Planned Happiness Institute, and author of Forgiveness: A Workbook for Emotional and Spiritual Freedom, Shadow Work: A Spiritual Path to Healing and Integration, and the new Dance Like Nobody's Watching: The Soul's Journey to Courage, Authenticity, and Self-Love—about what it actually takes to stop living at the mercy of our own stories. Together, they explore: ·Why forgiveness practices fail when they skip the body and the subconscious—and what to do instead ·How shadow work and forgiveness depend on each other, and why projection drives so much of the divisiveness we see ·"Functioning on top of dysfunction": our addictions to being nice and being liked, and how they train us to dumb ourselves down ·The 15 to 20 minutes before sleep, when the mind turns porous—and how Michelle guards that window ·Fire walking, cold plunges, and the discovery that fear is a choice rather than an automatic ·What it means to demand to be me without excuses—and who, exactly, that demand is addressed to ·Why a book about bold self-expression closes with instructions for a solo silent retreat Presence as a practice, learned while walking beside a dying husband Michelle speaks throughout from the middle of her own hardest passage, which gives everything she says about buoyancy, beauty, and determination a weight it would not otherwise carry. Sounds True is a mission-driven learning and media company, and a recognized leader in wellbeing, personal growth, and spiritual transformation. Partnering with the world’s foremost wisdom teachers and best-selling authors, the company reaches millions worldwide with its unique programs, digital learning experiences, and worldwide events. The company also features a variety of original series, weekly shows, and live online experiences on Sounds True One, its global platform and community with members across more than 125 countries. Sounds True is a Public Benefit Corporation and also the home of the Sounds True Foundation. Connect with us: ▪️Facebook: http://bit.ly/2XFIIeE ▪️Instagram: http://bit.ly/2UlEoiH ▪️Website: http://bit.ly/2tOl02d #MichelleWadleigh #Forgiveness #ShadowWork #SelfLove #Authenticity #InsightsAtTheEdge #SoundsTrue #spiritualpodcast